Transforming Your Critical Voices with Dynamic Spin Release™

I worked with a talented 32-year old man, to help him release an unconscious critical voice that was holding him back in his life. His name was Oscar and he was the owner of a successful business consulting company. Oscar was an interesting case indeed, because everything looked “right” about him. He had created the perfect career for himself, he married the perfect wife, and he was smart as a whip.

 

So what was his problem?

 

Oscar had an inner critical voice that traveled everywhere with him. In his mind, he constantly heard the words, “You better not be wrong, or else you’ll lose everything and then you’ll be all alone”.

 

Now take a moment and try on Oscar’s critical voice, by saying the above statement and notice how it makes you feel…

Most people experience a sense of dread when they say the above statement, which is exactly what Oscar felt all of the time. Hence, Oscar’s biggest problem was that he was always stressed out and worried about saying or doing the wrong thing, and he could never relax. He also had a habit of second guessing himself, because he was so terrified of getting it wrong.

 

Interestingly, it was also this same voice that motivated Oscar to do well in life. Because he was so afraid of doing the wrong thing, he tried to do everything right. From an outsider’s perspective, Oscar appeared to have a charmingly perfect life. However, on the inside he felt tightly wound up like a ball of rope– and he felt helpless and all alone. He didn’t want anyone to know what was going on, for fear they might think something was wrong with him.

 

What is an Unconscious Critical Voice?

 

An unconscious critical voice is an inner voice that was heard at some point in a person’s childhood, and stays with the person throughout his or her life. Whenever you ask someone if they have an inner critic or a critical voice that follows them around, most people will emphatically say, “Yes!”

 

What’s even more interesting is if you ask the person to point to the location of their critical voice, they’ll know right where it is! And more often than not, the critical voice will be located either behind their head or it’ll be located on the left or right side of their head. In Oscar’s case, his critical voice was located behind his left ear.

 

Your Critical Voices are Directly Connected with Your Limiting Beliefs

 

Another interesting aspect about critical voices is not only do they say damaging things to the person like, “You’re stupid” or “That was a dumb thing to say”… they can also serve as a limiting belief.

 

In Oscar’s case, it turned out that his unconscious critical voice was a cultural limiting belief that came from events in his childhood. Oscar’s parents immigrated to the United States from El Salvador in 1980, due to the onset of the Salvadoran Civil War. Several of their friends and neighbors had been killed for saying or doing the “wrong” thing, which is why they left the country.

 

As a child, Oscar parent’s often told him that it was important to work really hard in life and to never make any mistakes. This belief was drilled into Oscar from an early age, because his parents had seen so many of their friends executed during the war for doing or saying the wrong thing. Oscar then generalized this belief to include his work life, his personal life and his overall safety. As a result, he had a huge fear of saying or doing the wrong thing.

 

So, Oscar kept repeating statements in his mind like, “You better not be wrong, or you’ll lose everything, and then you’ll be all alone.” Over time, this belief transformed into an unconscious critical voice that followed him everywhere. The unconscious positive purpose of the critical voice was literally to protect him and keep him safe by doing and saying the right thing. Moreover, this critical voice represented all of the heinous and violent crimes that happened in El Salvador during the Civil War.

 

Hence, it was, in a sense, a Cultural Limiting Belief…

 

Cultural Limiting Beliefs and How to Change Them

 

My husband Tim and I have identified a lot of cultural limiting beliefs in the private work that we do, especially with clients who have parents or grandparents who immigrated from other violent and war infested countries.  Whenever I work with someone on their most core issues, I ask them a lot of questions about the history of their family– because more often than not, a person’s core issue will go back a couple of generations.

 

When I first started working with Oscar, he told me early on in the session that “he had this critical voice going on all the time” and it really stressed him out. I asked him where the critical voice was located, and he said it was behind his left ear. I then asked him to literally pull the voice away from him– and place it about six feet in front of him, so that he could see it floating in space.

 

I asked Oscar, “Whose voice is it, and what do you see in the space where you placed the voice?”

 

“This is really strange,” he replied. “I see a man’s index finger pointing at me and it’s telling me that I better not get it wrong!”

 

I asked Oscar who the “mysterious pointing finger” belonged to, and he immediately said that it was his grandfather’s finger! I then asked him if there was anyone else located behind his grandfather, and he replied, “Yes, I can see a whole ocean of people standing behind him, and they’re all the people who were killed during the Salvadoran Civil War.”

 

The Healing Power of Positive Intention

 

It became clear to Oscar in that moment during the session that the positive intent of his inner critic was all about keeping him safe. It was literally to avoid getting killed. Oscar got emotional at this point during the session, because he realized that not only was the voice trying to keep him safe and protect him, but it was also helping him to stay connected with his family and his Salvadorian roots. I asked Oscar to honor and acknowledge all the feelings of love and connection that he had for his family and the Salvadorian culture, as a whole.

 

Afterwards, he told me how incredibly good it felt to do that, because his parents had taught him to forget where he came from, and to only think of himself as an American. So not only was the voice and cultural belief trying to keep Oscar safe, it was also providing an unconscious way for him to stay connected with his grandfather, and all the generations before him.

 

The next thing I did was to ask Oscar to fill the space behind his left ear (where the critical voice had been) with golden light, so that the space would no longer be empty. In his pioneering work with critical voices, Tim Hallbom has found that it’s not ecological to leave a void when you remove a person’s critical voice, because sometimes another voice will take its place. Keep in mind that the critical voice has occupied its location in space for a number of years, and habit alone can prompt the unconscious mind to refill it.

 

This idea of filling in the void with something more positive is ancient knowledge indeed…  At some point in his life, Jesus said that you can’t cast out a demon, unless you fill the void that it’s been occupying with the Holy Spirit– otherwise the demon will go into the desert and bring back seven more demons to occupy the original void. Since we had just removed the critical voice from the space behind Oscar’s left ear, it made sense that we should replace it with something more positive and uplifting. So I chose a visual modality such as golden light, because I didn’t want another dissociated voice to return.

 

Dynamic Spin Release and the Energy of the Mind

 

I then asked Oscar to think about all the stress and anxiety that he felt whenever he thought about the critical voice and the cultural limiting belief– and then to notice where he felt all of the negative feelings in his body that were associated with those things.

 

“Whenever I think about that critical voice and belief, I get a really tight feeling in my throat,” he said. I then told him to imagine pulling the tight feeling out of his throat and to place it out front of him so that he could see it floating in space. As soon as he could see the image of the tight feeling in his throat, I asked him what it looked like.

 

Oscar replied, “I see an image of a gooey black blob with pointed edges around it, and it’s turning clockwise.”

 

I told him that is was great that he could see which way it was turning, and I continued to say, “Now, go ahead and spin the image of the black blob counterclockwise as fast as you can, until it explodes into a bunch of little particles floating in space. As soon as this happens, you’ll see a big cosmic vacuum come in and suck away all the particles… and a symbolic gift will instantly appear where the particles were. Now tell me, what kind of a gift do you see in front of you?”

 

Oscar continued to spin the black blob faster and faster with his mind’s eye, until it exploded into a bunch of tiny particles. As soon as the particles were gone, he told me that he saw a golden pocket watch.

 

“What does the pocket watch mean to you, and what healing message does it have for you?” I asked.

 

“The pocket watch means that it is my time to have the life I want, which means being able to finally relax and enjoy all the success that comes my way,” he said in a relaxed voice tone. “I also feel like the pocket watch belongs to my grandfather, and seeing it makes me feel more loving and connected with him,” he added.

 

I then told him, “Good, that is a nice metaphorical gift for you right now in your life… Now, go ahead and send the golden pocket watch out on a mission to the outer rims of the universe to collect all of the healing energy and wisdom throughout the universe, and throughout all of space and time,” I continued in a hypnotic voice tone.

 

“When the pocket watch returns, it will bring you back another gift or it will transform into another healing metaphor that is special to you. Remember that time is simultaneous, and these gifts come back very quickly. So, look in front of you right now, and tell me what your new gift is?” I asked.

 

“Well the pocket watch can back with a bright shining star,” he said with a smile on his face and a look of surprise. “Ahhhh, a bright shining star, what a great gift!” I said in a confirming tone.

 

“What is the meaning of your gift,” I asked, and Oscar emphatically replied, “It means that I can shine now and I’m safe to be who I am! It’s my time to shine, and I can relax and enjoy my success!”

 

In that moment, I noticed the muscle tonus in Oscar’s face soften up and his whole body completely relaxed. Which was way different from the tightly wound posture that I had seen so many times before. I asked him to take a good look at the golden pocket watch and the bright shining star, and to add in some more color or sparkles to the images. He chose golden-white light, and surrounded the pocket watch and the shining star with the image of the light.

 

“Now go ahead and reach your hands out in front of you,” I said, “and imagine the pocket watch and the shining star, and the golden-white light floating back into your hands. As soon as they’re in your hands, you can bring all of that healing energy into your body, letting the essence of the pocket watch, the shining star, and the golden white light float into every cell in your body–though out all of your DNA, and your entire energetic being.”

 

As I was saying this, he pulled his hands up towards where the critical voice had been and then he imagined bringing all of it in. Shortly there after, he fell into a deep trance. I continued to do a fifteen minute hypnotic trance with him, in which I tied together all of the healing metaphors from his gifts, with his overall goal of being able to completely relax and enjoy all the success that he had achieved at such a young age.

 

When he came out of his trance, he looked really different from when he first walked into my office. He literally looked like he had let go of his critical voice and the cultural belief that had accompanied it. His body posture was more relaxed and he seemed totally comfortable in his body.

 

A few days later I received an email from Oscar, and he told me that his life had totally changed as a result of the work that we did; and he was finally able to completely relax and enjoy his life!

 

End Note: Some of the details in this article were altered to protect the privacy of the client.

 

Special Thanks: I would like to thank Tim Hallbom for doing such a brilliant job of editing this article, and for sharing his pioneering work in the exploration of critical voices.

 

Footnotes:
1. Dynamic Spin Release Training Manual by Tim & Kris Hallbom, NLPCA (Burlingame, CA 2010).
2. BibleGateway.com, Matthew 12:43-45, 1 John 4:4, Ephesians 5:18 (Holy Bible, New International Version, 1973, 1978, 1984 – Biblica.).
3. Dynamic Spin Release and the Energy of Your Mind by Kris Hallbom, NLPCA (Burlingame, CA 2008).
4. Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, M.D. (Volume I) by Richard Bandler and John Grinder (Meta Publications, 1975).

 

Kristine Hallbom is the co-founder of the NLP Coaching Institute of California and is a principle author and developer of Dynamic Spin Release™ and the WealthyMind™ Program. Recognized for her ability to translate complex ideas into practical skills, and for her warm, approachable style, Kris has trained and coached clients throughout Europe, Australia, Russia, Japan, Mexico, Canada and the USA.

 

She is also the co-author of the book, Powerful Questions and Techniques for Coaches and Therapists, and has published numerous articles on wealth consciousness, NLP Coaching and systems thinking for a variety of psychology journals and magazines.

 

Kris can be reached through her website at: https://www.krishallbom.com

 

© 2020 Kristine Hallbom

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